Hey , no one told me about this , no one confess about the truth :) so ,
in this post I will try to give you an idea about what will go on during the
1st year :) according to my personal experience , so you may live it in a
different way.What I am doing here is trying to help :) that`s all :)
لازم نعترف ، محد قالنا هالشي و لا راح يقولون الصج ،عشان جذي انا ودي اعطيكم فكره عن الوضع الصجي اللي يصير بأول سنة زواج ،لكن مثل ما قلت اكثر من مرة انا اتكلم من تجربتي الشخصية و بعض تجارب البنات اللي حولي و مو بالضرورة انه هالكلام ينطبق على الكل و الشي اللي ابيه بس اني يمكن اقدر اساعد
انا مو خبيرة و لا دارسة و لاشي و مثل ما قلت انا اتكلم من تجربتي الشخصية
The first year of
marriage is the year of adjustment , I believe it is just like the probation
period when you start a new job or like moving to a foreign country
, you will experience a culture shock , you and your partner are
speaking a different language , don`t panic , with time you will start to feel
attached to your new life and you will even forget what life was like in your
"Old Country " .
اول سنة من الزواج اهيا سنة التأقلم و التعود ، مثل وضعكم باول 6 شهور من الوظيفة او انكم تنتقلون تعيشون بديرة ثانية راح تحوشكم صدمة اختلاف الثقافة، اللي يحس فيها الشخص اللي يعيش في بيئة غير بيئته و كل واحد فيكم يتكلم بلغة غير الثاني ، مو قصدي لغويا لكن لغة الرجل تختلف عن لغة المرأة ،كل واحد فيكم متربي بعايلة و بيئة مختلفة عن الثاني و هالشي اذا صار جدا طبيعي
مع الوقت راح تحسون بلإندماج لدرجة انه تتعودون على الوضع اليديد و تنسون شلون كان قبل
There are few
things you should know about the 1st year
في بعض الأشياء اللي تصير او تحسون فيها اول سنة بالزواج
- You will feel
as if you are forgetting something , all the time :
راح تحسين انه كله ناسية شي بس ما تدرين شنو
Weeks ago , 70%
percent of your brain is filled with the wedding details , when it ends , you
will feel lost . How to solve that ? Start plan your life together &
actually , it is really fun .
هالشي طبيعي ،تخيلي انه قبل اسبوع كان 70%من تفكيرج مشغول بالعرس و تفاصيل العرس و اللوية و البدلة و الصالون ، و فجأة ماكو شي !!راح تحسين نفسج ضايعة ، شلون تحلين هالمشكلة ؟؟؟ ابدي خططي حق حياتكم و شغلي نفسج و هالشي وناسة و اذا انتي وحده تحبين تريحين نفسج لا تفكرين و ارتاحي :)
- The Baby hints will start
immediately :
نغزات البيبي
Maybe your wedding
pictures are not organized yet in your photo album , breeders will
start asking the big question : are you guys trying yet ? I know the question
itself is really rude , but feel free to answer : We are happy , but weather we
are thinking of having a baby or not is none of your business :P
يمكن صور العرس لي الحين ما طلعت و لا رتبتيهم بس هالسؤال لازم لازم يسألونكم انتوا الأثنين
ها مو قاعدين تحاولون ؟ او ما حملتي ؟
ادري انه السؤال يسبب شوي توتر لكن خلي فبالج انه هالشي طبيعي و لا تتضايقين و تأكدي انه من حقج انج تردين باي طريقة تعجبج
الناس الكبار و اللي لهم درجة من الإحترام قولي لهم انشالله باذن الله
بس الناس اللي يحنون و يبون تفاصيل و ما يسكتون ، قولي لهم احنا مرتاحين الحين و الموضوع خاص فينا
-You will fight
and make up (again & again &again ) :
راح تتهاوشون وايد وايد وايد و تتراضون
You may insult
each other , scream and shout , but remember each time you reach that and come
back together , your bond will grow stronger . Moreover , make sure that
you solve the argument before you sleep , don`t ever think to leave your
bedroom and sleep in the couch AND NEVER EVER LEAVE THE HOUSE !! Unless he punches you in the face or you
caught him cheating on you
يمكن توصل الهوشة انكم تصارخون و تناجرون بعض و ما تسكتون و ترجعون تتراضون
تذكروا انه كل مرة يصير هالشي ، علاقتكم تصير اقوى و تصيرون قراب من بعض
لكن اهم شي ، لا تنامون و انتوا ما حليتوا الهوشة
لا تطلعين من دارج و تنامين بره بالصالة ولا تخلينه ينام على القنفة
و اهم نصيحة
لا تطلعين من البيت
الا بحالتين
اذا مد ايده عليج او خانج
This year is full
of hardships , struggling and misunderstanding mixed with Love , care and
passion So surviving the 1st Year worth a celebration ;) guys keep in mind ,
if you forget your 1st year anniversary , you will be doomed :P
مثل ما قلت هذي اصعب سنة في وايد مشاعر مختلطة لكن بالنهاية يبقى الحب
و اذا ماكو حب ما راح تمشي
و مثل هذي السنة اللوية و اللي راح تمر بسرعة من كثر الأحداث اللي فيها تحتاج احتفال الصراحة
و الشباب نصيحة اذا نسيتوا احتفال اول سنة خلاص طول عمركم راح تندمون و الله
الحين خلنا على تفاصيل عيد الزواج الأول
طبعا كل سنة لها رمز معين لين توصلون انشالله الى اليوبيل الذهبي او الماسي بعد
المصدر للمعلومات اللي بكتبها الحين راح تلقونه بلأخير
"1st Anniversary Traditional Gift:
Paper. It symbolizes the strength in paper
that comes from the interlaced connection of the paper's individual threads.
الرمز التقليدي لعيد الزواج الأول
الورق
و اهو دليل على قوة الخيوط اللي تشكلت منها الورقة
ممكن الهدية تكون عبارة عن رسايل حب او رسايل تكتبون فيها اللي تبون
طبعا ادري بتضحكون و محد راح يسويها
المهم شي بالورق
1st Anniversary Contemporary/Modern Gift:
Clocks. Henry Van Dyke wrote, "For
those who love, time is eternity."
الرمز الحديث لعيد الزواج الأول
الساعة
هنري فان ديوك قال"الوقت بين اللي يحبون ماله نهاية"طبعا الترجمة الحرفية ضيم
الساعة
هنري فان ديوك قال"الوقت بين اللي يحبون ماله نهاية"طبعا الترجمة الحرفية ضيم
1st Anniversary Gemstone:
Gold Jewelry, Pearl, or Peridot
و حجر الزبرجد
1st Anniversary Color:
Gold or Yellow
لون عيد الزواج الأول
الذهبي او الأصفر
الذهبي او الأصفر
1st Anniversary Flower:
Orange Blossom or Pansy.
The meaning of a pansy is that the recipient
is being thought about. The pansy's name comes from the French word pensée
which means thought or remembrance.
The meaning of an orange blossom is
purity, innocence, eternal love, marriage and fruitfulness, and fertility.
و الورد الخاص بعيد الزواج الأول
البنفسج و زهر البرتقال
البنفسج يرمز للذكرى انه راح تكونون فبال بعض على طول
و زهر البرتقال رمز النقاء و البراءة و الحب الأبدي و الخصوبة
3 comments:
This by far is one of my fav posts, as I've just passed the first year threshold. What you talked about is really important because a lot of girls get into marriage thinking its la la land, all fun and love and pink dreams. Yet, as much as we find it hard to adjust our husbands may find it harder. In my case, instead of me going to live at my in-laws my husband came to live at my family's house because I'm an only child and my dad passed away when I was a baby and I couldn't possibly leave my mom all alone. His decision made me love and respect him even more because I know that this is a huge sacrifice on his part. In the end I guess all we have to do is be patient, take it day by day, and at times try to put ourselves in our spouse's position cuz they're just as new to this as we are...
Madry laish gore gat 3ainy wana Agra ur post .. Loved everything about it .. Details and pics xx Allah yhanekm o ewafegkm xx many years of happenies with love nshalllaah
heyyy ...i like ur blog
i have been checking it out for a long time but never commented on a thing
well this subject .. i like a lot and i have a thing to add
when i got married ... me and my husband decided to live like a girlfriend-boyfriend kindda live its like two lovers doing whtever they want bil 7alal
i didnt like the idea of being limited with wht society thinks of wht u should do or dont when or where etc
im some one who cannot live without passion without the heat of love
i did not like the idea of a typical couple ...dull and lazy and do thing like robots
i set my mind to b happy passionate with my husband "boyfriend " i wanted to click with him ..find the best friendin him ...never get bored with each other ...talk infinitely
and thats us el 7amdilla
wherever we go ... u can c the glow around us
el 7amdilla el7amdilla
and we do have a strong base for our relationship
we talk abt every thing we feel
we discuss the issued we may face
we learned how to take care of each other and think abt his feelings before mine ... as he does that too
actually we loved being with each other ... le darajat we became insuperable... he gets jealous if i watch a movie without him ... and i get jealous if he goes to the new 'it restaurant ' at his free day with his friends before he goes to that palce with me ...lol
we r crazy
actually i never had a rough year ...not my first nor my second
actually its my thirrrd year
6ab3an kalami killa i used ( we were ...we used) not because we r not anymore .... no we r still el7amdilla
bs in our third yr we had our baby girl
it was hard why ?!! becz it puts u shway in that husband wife kindda figure ...and that scares me the most
i liked being katkoota o me being my husband's baby ...jumping d fooling arnd with him
and now we have a baby ...we had to struggle for a couple of months till we found our selves again
i know they say taht love z stages
first z the lust and passion then comes el 3ishra o el 7ub el hadi
i dont agree
we could live in the first stage for ever and ever if we want to
and that wht happened
when we first had our baby we automatically jumped into the second stage and i wasnt ready for that stage yet ( ma shiba3t min el first one yet ;) ) ...shway shway we retured to our first stage of love like a newly weds again el 7amdilla
it takes efforts from both of us ...bs if u r carefull of wht u want and dont want in a relationship and u set ur mind with ur husband to live that dream u will ...believe me
its true ...this year
the third year z the toughest walla but as u said we become closer and closer after every fight
bs i say for anyone getting married u have to read a lot ...educate ur self
know how to go through stuff smoothly
how to avoid this and that
and most importantly keep the spark ;*
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