Friday, July 29, 2011

ما تطبخين ؟؟؟؟ مو سنعه

I am not sure if I have to write this post in Arabic , I mean in Kuwaiti accent so I can use the proper words because I am mad .

راح اكتب البوست بالكويتي عشان اقدر اعبر عن حرتي عدل



و إحنا صغار ، كانت الألعاب اللي يشترونها لنا أهلنا غالبا ما تكون لها علاقه بشغل البيت ، مثلا المطبخ اللي معاه بيضه ، او مكينه تنظيف ، ادوات خياطه او بيبي نقعد نربيها


انا كنت من البنات اللي ما يلعبون في هذي النوعيه من الألعاب ، لدرجه انه امي خافت علي انه فيني شي لأني ما احب العب في الدوولز اللي تكون بيبي نربيها ، اغلب العاب انه عندي محل ملابس او اقعد اسجل صوتي و انا اقول الاخبار و اسجل برامج ، كنت اغني و ارقص او اسوي مسرحيات


للأسف هذي الفكره اللي الأمهات يربون البنات عليها انها تكون ربه منزل ناجحه او " سنعه " مثل ما نقول بالكويت ، و بالذات موضوع الطباخ .

علاقتي مع الطباخ كلش مو طيبه . من اقول كلمه ما اطبخ ، نظرات العالم تييني جني مسويه جريمه. امي عندها اني مفشلتها جدام اهل زوجي .

ليش وايد نسمع مثل هالسالفه : سنعه و الريال يرد البيت وجبته جاهزه و قايمه فبيتها و عيالها و مسنعه له هالاكل و الحلويات و تطبخ له و مو ناقصه شي و راح خذا عليها ، او انها ما تكون سعيده بحياتها لانه ماكو شي عاجبه

هل الطباخ و الوجبه الجاهزه المسنعه اهو الشي الوحيد المهم ؟

طبعا كلامي مو تعميم بس لازم تتغير هالفكره بالمجتمع ، انا موخبيره و لا قاعده افرض كلامي بس من التجارب اللي حولي فهمت انه هالشي غلط
اللي تطبخ لانها تحب الطباخ ،،، هذا موضوع ثاني

لازم الشخصين يعرفون شنو اللغه اللي يتفاهمون فيها مع بعض ، مثلا وحده تتفاهم بلغه الطبخ و زوجها مو مهم عنده اصلا الاكل يمكن يقدر يأكل توسته و جبنه و بس ، هني راح تبدا الزوجه تفكر و تقول كل يوم اطبخ له و اتعب نفسي و هو مو حاس فيني ما يبين لي انه حاب الاكل و تبدا تزعل و يعافي يومها كله ، بالمقابل هذا الزوج ما يفكر بالاكل كثر ما همه الاول انه يشوف حبيبته بكامل نشاطها و حيويتها تقعد تسولف معاه ! و طبعا الاخت راح تكون تعبانه من الطبخه.




عشان جذي من فتره الخطبه لازم الشخصين يعرفون اهتمامات بعض و شنو المهم عند كل واحد فيهم .

و ان السنع ما ينقاس بالطبخ بس

وين الثقافه و الاسلوب ، وين للحكمه و التدبير ؟ اعتقد انه المراه الناجحه اللي اذا صارت لها ظروف في غياب زوجها تقدر تتصرف و تكون مسؤوله و الا تبون تقعد تحمس بصل ؟


رجاءا مو لازم الكل يعتبر اللي ما تطبخ مو سنعه لان ما تدرون شنو الصفات اللي فيها اللي مخليها ناجحه في زواجها



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11 comments:

i-Found said...

shaklich 7adich mtnarfiza :>
anyways i guess halsalfah based on ahalna gbl o 6abe3at el7ayat gbl kanat te6alab ina elmara etkon te6ba5 7ag rayelha o tan6er elrayel .. anyways mo bas 3ndina halsalfah bklmokan bl3alam elmara lazm et3arf te6ba5 o elahal e3algoon 3ala e6obaa5 im not talkin arabs bas even the whole world.

mimi said...

Most of our moms back in the days were housewives but things are different now .. Most women have jobs that kill half of their days and thats what makes us less housewives .. Whenever my mom talks to me about cooking ( i know 7abebti she means well mo qa9dha shay bad) bs i always reply this way : YUMMA !! If u worked from 7:00-4:00 like me you'd think differently !
LooL sometimes a9eer bgara in the way i talk to my mom bs it makes sense right ? :p

Amethyst said...

Oufff, I hate when people do that! You don't cook, so you're probably not a good wife. I'm starting to show it off. I can't cook, but my husband and I are amazing together.. 7arra;p

BeRo0Q8 said...

wallaah kalamch 3adel..
9ij al6ba5 mo kel shay blzawaj.. bl3aks le b5a6ri a6b5 agom a6b5 o at3lm.. bs ha shay raj3li ana..
o ha shay bain alryal o morta m7ad lah sh'3l feh..
damhom mrta7en hatha aham shay :D

samaher tariq said...

i can't cook too i try and whenever someone bug me about it i point out to my successful career and my proud mom and husband about it

NewQ8 Bride said...

I-Found : thanks a lot dear , 9a7 elmara mertb6a her image bl cooking :) but we are the generations o kil Shay taghyar


Mimi: eeee walah klaamich 9a7 , I keep telling mom , yooma eke ya tghayrt . O bas askt loool


Amethyst : looool eeeee walah m7treen looooool so cute

BeRo0Q8@: eee walah elee t7b el6bakh 3aleha bl3afeya ra7 tswee elshay o entaw mestansaa bas etha halshay ykhalene mtnarfza !!! Mabeee


Samaher Tariq : you are a celever diplomatic girl ;)

Butterfly Chick said...

I dont cook too, well I am trying now shway bas all what I do is dessert :P

anyway, I guess cooking is important, I know most of the girls/women now are working oo el dwam 6weel oo erdoon t3baneen oo a9lan mafee wagt to cook.. Bs it will still be nice if you cook a meal for your husband in weekends or something.. akeed he will like it from ur hand, ena u tried sth for him, 7ta law dessert or simple breakfast, 7ta law toast :P.. sometims men like that their wives cook for them.. and to think about what our parents think.. mara 3endha 3yal 3endha rayel who will cook for them? when I tell mom el 5adama betswi kelshay she comes with "min be3alemha?:P" lol
I am not married so I dunno what I will do with the cooking part when I get married :P! But yeah marriage is not all about cooking I agree

Standy said...

i agree with you,,,

Anonymous said...

I believe etha el rayyal san3 o really deserves it oo cooking is something important for him (oo he shows appreciation) wallah i bet any girl would learn to cook 3ashanah! I totally agree
"لازم الشخصين يعرفون شنو اللغه اللي يتفاهمون فيها"
some guys dont mind eating whatever or from the cook. A9lan etha kil yoom u'll cook for him it wont be a special thing, be9eer 3addah o he wont appreciate ur efforts (mthl u5ooy !!! lol)

inspirationsbysd.com said...

lool ur so right, oo honestly mojtama3na wayed fathee oo bs yabon ytdakhlon..yshofon al couple happy bs they still think ehma y3arfon ser naja7 al3laqa! Ma7ad shtkalkum!
Obviously men klish klsh ma yehtamon bel tarteeb wala alnathafa wala al6abekh wala emor albait at all! Lo ynam eb a carton box bara fl shar3 ma 3nda man3 lool fa hal suwalef women added to their wifely duties oo galaw lazm! Ana a6bakh bs my husband doesnt care lo nakel klyom take away, plus who wants to be san3a? "Proper girls seldom make history" ;) khal alsana3 yenfa3hum

Anonymous said...

You know what's sad?
I know a girl who absolutely hates cooking, but started to "cook" to impress people (mostly older women and guys from university) that she can cook. Her cooking is overseeing the staff in her house cracking the eggs for the ready made cakes and putting it in the oven. She doesn't lift a finger. And yet, she says "ana a6bakh"

It's becoming a measure of how san3a a girl is, and how eligible she is for marriage. And this is SICK.

ilmara mo ib6ibakh-ha... oo gabil mako options. Now il7imdilla we have people to cook for us, to deliver, or to go out... and the options are ENDLESS.

I feel nowadays it is more improtant for a girl to be independent than knowing how to cook. I cook oo ma3arif adabir nafsi in the real world?

As for marriage, respecting my husband and gaining his respect is more important. That same girl I know is now married to a guy who cheats on her, does not allow her to have opinions or leave the house. He emotionally abuses her. That is not a successful marriage. She also has a kid which is always with her mother. Even though the child is 1 years old now she still does not have basic mother skills.

Cooking is not a measure of lady's worth or her ability to properly run a household!