Hey J it’s the 1st working week of 2011 , how is everyone : )
That image summarize my weekend ;)
Walah it was really a good break, I had so much fun , party , friends and family BBQ gathering .
Guess what? I didn’t spend the new year`s eve with JJ !! I planned a party with my friend and he was camping.
Hmm , I think its fine , although I noticed some question marks , that if everything is fine between us ??
I am not saying that am wrong, or right, but I believe that there are no stereotype of the perfect couples , each 2 are unique and different , so spending new year`s eve apart doesn’t mean that we r facing problems , especially if we are happy , to be honest , I was excited , calling him after the countdown to find out the he was calling me at the same time just to greet each other .
We both had an astonishing time .
I was talking with my 2 best friends ( the only 2 remained from our Mishref`s group ) because of silly girls stuff , any way, we were talking about engagements and marriage , both of them singles , we came cross the point of being clear about your needs , rules and interests to the man who is proposing to you . I believe that you have to explain to him , what is the image you have created to yourself as a married woman , for example : do you see yourself that loving mother of 4 or 5 children , preparing their meals , helping them doing their home works and waiting for your husband to come back home from his dewanya : ) Spending your vacations with him and the kids in one of the families resorts ? or the other image of the outgoing wife (girlfriend type ) , who can’t give away her me time of watching her favorite TV show , hanging out with her friends , travelling for a week without her husband shopping in one of the cosmopolitan cities , just to come back and impress him with her new look and spending her break with him in one of the exotic islands ;) just the 2 of them telling everyone they are honeymooners while the truth is they’ve been married for 5 years
I am not judging any type, both can create healthy marriage life according to the couples themselves.
One of us disagree, she said you can’t tell him what you want from the beginning , because most men who said No , will change after years . For me I can’t wait 3 or 5 years waiting for him to change, and he may not ??? , I know girls who’ve been married for 10 years now and nothing changed? I can’t live my life acting that am happy while am hiding a tiny little desire that I really want to spend time with my friends !! or go to spa , or have time alone without kids reading a book in a café .
She was clear replying to me that if he didn’t change , she will not argue with him , I asked her : even if he stopped you from meeting us ? Surprisingly she replied: YES
I went back home , thinking , looking around , where are my friends ?all of them who get married , left the group , I am the only one who didn’t change !! I am not writing that post to show everyone that I am the best , but I am telling the truth .
I guess I did a huge mistake by not skipping them , ignoring their calls and meet them once a year .
I am not blaming them , they choose what they really want ,
I guess I have to reorganize my priorities